If you’re texting, you’re cheating


Is kissing cheating? I mean it’s just a kiss.

You would think that kissing another women or man would be a huge no, no. But a poll by the Huffington Post indicates that every kiss doesn’t have to begin K. Only 48 percent of survey respondents would consider it cheating if their bae kissed someone else on the lips. On the other hand, 79 percent said they consider sending dirty texts or pictures a form of cheating.

So what the hell is wrong with the world? A kiss is not cheating, but texting is?

Let’s digest what that means. Almost twice the number of people consider sexting to be a more legit sign of cheating than making out with someone.

So should we all just grab someone and start making out? I mean I’m not, not down. But realistically, that isn’t right.

Guess that explains why everyone is so paranoid about what we are doing on our phones. Flirty texts and emails may never become physical, but that doesn't mean you don’t have a side bae.

“Why don’t they ever just pick up the f**king phone and call?!” some people wonder. But not you. You’re happy to stick to texts for as long as possible. Far from being daunted by a guy who never picks up the phone, you’ll dodge his calls and let him go straight to voicemail so you can text him back.

Easier right? Because who actually talks on the phone today? Noooooooo one.

Hate to break it to you, but if you’re the one who lets it go straight to voicemail, you could be flirting with disaster.

While it’s fun, and even sometimes downright dirty to be a master texter, it could put you at risk for dating traps, especially early on in a relationship. So let your fingers do the talking if you must, but proceed with caution.

So, when does simple flirt-texting become cheating? Here are a few warning signs and various dangers of flirty texting.

Are you always that one person who only has a few message threads in their inbox? Yeah, you’re sketchy.

If you are deleting your scandalous texts, you already know, intentionally or not, that you shouldn’t be doing it. Put the shoe on the other foot and ask how you would feel if you found the messages on your lovers phone? Really f*ckin mad? Awkward? Annoyed? Confused? Probably all of those. If your naughty text messages are damaging the trust between you and your bae, then you shouldn’t be sending them in the first place.

The simple fact is that people who cheat, lie. If you're covering your tracks so your partner can't catch you in the act, you're being sketchy and unfair, whether sex is involved or not.

Sex or no sex, having a new guy in your life is exciting to begin with. But add impassioned back-and-forth texting to the mix and it could be too exciting. Bored at work, you hear that beep of a new message and practically jump out of your seat.

Please let it be him, please let it be him!

When you finally see his name light up your screen and world (until you get annoyed after five minutes) you quickly dash off a reply and then stare at your phone, eagerly waiting for him to respond.

Sounds like a waiting game am I right?

When he does, you’re so giddy you want to burst into a happy dance, but decide not to because your co-worker already doesn’t like you.

This kind of excitement, mainly as you are just getting to know someone, sets you up for spikes of extreme highs and lows. Remember, a lasting and deeper relationship will consist of minimal highs and lows at the beginning, so try and put your phone down, if you can.

There is a flip-side of this weird happy feeling when your phone beeps.

Waiting for a response that doesn’t always come immediately, can knock you right off cloud nine. In real life, when you’re flirting with a guy you get instant satisfaction; you say something cute, and he looks at you like he wants to rip your clothes off.

You smile, and he smiles back at you. It should be that easy.

In text life, you could write the flirtiest message, and get nothing back. This guy may still want to rip your clothes off, but you won’t know for hours or even days until he graces you with a reply. And by that time, over you!

During the time you hit send, to the time he grants you with his presence via Imessage, your mind has the opportunity to start talkin sh*t to your own brain. Crazy right?

He met someone else, He doesn’t want to date me anymore, I’ll never hear from him again, and I’m a pathetic loser and no one will ever love me EVER!!!

The purpose of flirting is to feel sexy, not rejected. So nix the f*ckboy who won’t give you what you need. Oh, did you know women have needs? Ha ha ha....

Ahhhhhhhh, flirting. It’s something we try and master all of our teenage years, but then realize it’s all just a huge shit show out there.

Basically, there are two types of flirting.

Innocent flirting has many advantages. It makes you feel young, attractive and noticed. Flirting has the power to put you back on you’re a-game. In the workplace, professional flirting can make everyone feel more comfortable with each other, just remember -- no harm, no foul.

If you have a deep-seated need to flirt, stop texting now.

What begins innocently enough is pushed and forced to its bitter conclusion, cheating. Better to remove the temptation before you cause incurable damage.

Deliberate flirt-texting is the second kind of flirter. This person flirts for one of two reasons: to test the waters for a potential relationship, or to get a reaction from your partner.

Flirt-texting to provoke a reaction is cruel. Perhaps you feel that your bae doesn't compliment you, or tell pay attention to you. Having someone else tell you this may feel nice, but in the end it is fake, and your being mean.

When in doubt, maybe don’t flirt it out.

Flirting is fun, if done right. However, a false sense of intimacy, is never fun.

Back and forth texts about everything from the people who annoyed you through out your day to your most treasured hopes and dreams, it seems like he’s your boyfriend.

This cozy yumminess is devious though, because he’s not your boyfriend and you just swiped right on tinder last night.

If you added up your texting time it might come out to just five to ten minutes of time spent “together” that day.

Real intimacy is special, and is something gained through actual interactions.

If you intend on pushing the boundaries of your flirty texting into the realm of sexting, danger ahead.

Yes, it’s super-sexy to add sizzle to your relationship by sending sexy messages but if you just met the guy, know that whatever you are sending is being viewed by everyone sitting around the couch with him playing Grand Theft Auto.

Be careful what you send, and be careful your texting doesn’t turn into cheating.