Playing “Would You Rather” is always a fun game to play with friends, and there’s always one hypothetical where you can’t decide what you’d choose; sometimes both choices are great, or they’re both totally freakin’ terrible. Would you rather have wet spaghetti hair or every third word you say is “Titties”?
You know, stuff like that. But then there’s the situations that are realistic, and they’re the worst to think about since they’re actually possible.
One situation in particular is rather interesting, and can happen to any of us: a sexless marriage or a cheating spouse- which one is worse? Today, we are going to find out.
To really break it all down, let’s separate both situations into pro’s and con’s and get a solid overview of these terrible situations.
First off, let’s take a look at the pro’s and con’s of a sexless marriage.
1. Couples Can Still Be Happy
Elderly couples are still happy together and totally in love despite the fact that they haven’t had sex in years and years, which should be of some consolation. It’s not like sex is the only thing you do together as a couple; there’s tons of things you can do together.
If your marriage needs sex to survive, you’re married to the wrong person.
2. No Infidelity Behind Your Back
Even if you’re not having sex, you can sleep easily knowing your spouse isn’t shagging someone behind your back. Infidelity is a relationship killer.
3. Still Together
Surely you’d rather spend your days with someone who loves you and is always there for you but doesn’t have sex with you, rather than someone who cheats on you all the time and doesn’t treat you with respect. If you’re in a sexless marriage, at least you’re in a marriage- you have someone to talk to, to love, and to live with, which is more than a lot of people can say for themselves.
1. No Fun
A marriage is going to need some passion every now and then, and that means sex and all that goes with it. Sexless marriages are completely lacking in that area, obviously.
Sex is a great way to have fun with your spouse, and with no sex, you’re missing out on a lot of fun.
Sometimes you feel really stressed, and the only way to get rid of it is to have some passionate, amazing sex. Stress is an amazing stress reducer. In a sexless marriage, you don’t have that option when it comes to stress relief- you’re going to need to find another source.
When you’ve had a bad day, sometimes the best way to get over it is to have some passionate fun with your spouse, but you can’t do that if you’re not sleeping together; good luck finding something comparable that isn’t either drugs or alcohol.
3. Loss of Passion
You need passion in a marriage every now and then, and without it, couples may become distant. They need to feel a desire for each other, and need to know that their partner feels the same way; when you’re not sleeping together, it can be hard to maintain the passion that is fueled significantly by sex and all that comes with it.
4. No Children
If you’re not having sex, you and your partner will never be able to have a child of your own, unless you choose to adopt. Many people dream of having their own kids and raising them with their ideal partner; in a sexless marriage, the only way you can have children is to adopt, which might not be that appealing to some people.
Doesn’t sound too great, does it? While there may be a lack of passion in a sexless marriage, there can still be romance; if you thought that was bad, just wait.
Shit’s about to get heavy.
If anyone can think of a pro to having your spouse cheat on you, let me know. If there was anything positive to be taken from knowing your spouse is cheating on you, infidelity wouldn’t be a hot topic in our culture today.
What good can be taken from knowing that someone you gave your heart and soul to tossed your love aside for sex with some stranger? You promised each other that you’d be together no matter what, and breaking that promise is the worst kind of betrayal.
If you don’t divorce them, there’s always going to be a part of you wondering if they’re cheating again, but would you rather have an unfaithful partner who can potentially fix things between you, or have no partner at all?
That’s no easy decision.
They’re Cheating On You
Knowing your partner, the person you devoted your life to and gave so much love to, is cheating is one of the worst feelings anyone can experience. It’s a complete betrayal, and one that will sting for years to come.
The fact that you gave someone your heart and they tossed it aside for some physical attraction to someone else will make even the strongest of people feel torn up inside.
As you can see, there’s more good to be taken from a sexless marriage than having your spouse cheat on you. In one situation, you’re still together and love one another, while in the other the love is completely one-sided and your partner is being unfaithful.
Would you rather have someone be with you forever who loves you but doesn’t really show it physically, or have them sleep with you and with someone else on the side? On one side you have love but no passion, and on the other you have passion but no love.
Honestly, I’ll take the love every day.